How We Work

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Creating a ceremony of any kind is a process. We work closely with each individual or couple to be sure that the end product is a true reflection of what is meaningful to you. Our primary focus and concern is working closely with you to craft a ceremony that honors what is most important and meaningful to you and your families and performing it for you in the spirit of love and service. So, how do we do it? Although each of us approaches our work in slightly different ways you can expect the following:

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Initial Meeting

After initial communication by e-mail and/or phone an in person meeting is planned. When meeting in person is impractical or simply impossible due to geographic or time restraints phone or Skype (a great alternative!) can be used for this initial, extended conversation. This is a very important meeting and in order for your Officiant to do a good job it is crucial that both the bride and groom participate.  Come to this meeting ready to share a bit about yourselves and to simply get to know your Officiant and have her/him get to know you. There’s really nothing you need to prepare but it’s good to not be in a rush.

A Contract

Once we’ve decided that we want to work together we will prepare a contract for everyone to sign. This protects all parties and clarifies our agreements. A signed contract and deposit book the date.

Questionnaire

In most cases your Officiant will request that you complete a Questionnaire. This allows us to learn more about you and to get more detailed information that assures your ceremony will be a reflection of what you feel is most important.

Ceremony Choices

You will be provided with an extensive menu of options to choose from for the basic elements of your ceremony, then the Officiant weaves the ceremony together with their own words. These choices give you the opportunity to be intimately involved in the creation of your ceremony, especially in the language that is used and allows you to choose from items that you might not otherwise be aware of. For example:
Vows
Declaration of intent/consent
Rituals
Prayers
Ring vows
Ring blessings
Pronouncements
Honoring family
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Cultural and Religious elements

Whatever your religious or cultural backgrounds, there are always ways to incorporate elements that honor these traditions. If you have a specific challenge in this regard we are happy to work with you to find the very best ways of bringing these traditions (modified or traditional) into your ceremony.

Editing

You are always welcome to suggest changes to your ceremony script. Never hesitate to talk with us about an element of your ceremony that you are not quite sure about and need some help with.

A Second Meeting

Meeting with your Officiant a second time (phone or Skype) is up to you. If you feel that this would help you feel more secure and assured on your day-of then please request it.  Generally, the rehearsal suffices, but if a meeting would make you feel more confident then just ask!

E-mail and phone

We are available to communicate with you, as needed, to be sure that your ceremony is the best experience possible. We make every effort to return phone calls and e-mails quickly.

Rehearsals

For a big wedding a rehearsal is usually a good idea, especially when you have a large wedding party and conducting that rehearsal is a service that your Officiant can provide. Please talk with us about your rehearsal needs.

Conducting Your Ceremony

The day-of is an exciting time for everyone. In addition to conducting your ceremony we hope to support you to you feel calm, focused and fully present so that you will truly enjoy the experience.

Marriage License

After your wedding day your marriage license will be executed (filled out) and returned to the Circuit Court that you obtained it from. When you need copies please contact that Court and they will provide you with copies for any purpose you’ll need them for.